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Minimalism traps: 3 things to avoid when mucking out

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Minimalism and sorting out are fine things: you get rid of superfluous ballast, you bump into it again, deal intensively (perhaps for the first time in a long, long time) with yourself and what you actually expect from life - and also fundamentally questions one's own relationship to consumption.

The problem: It's not that easy after all.

Minimalism traps: where there is light ...

Nobody tells you. You don't even want to know when you're in the repackaging and sorting fever. When you only see the senselessly accumulated junk of the last few years (decades?) Everywhere, if everything would have changed from now on and if you feel really great and wonderful and easy and generally like a new person turning what is inside you surrounding things.
The minimalism game is fun, it's easy to board when the first hurdles have been overcome and you get into a kind of mucking-out euphoria - which can even last for a long time and in which every object that leaves the house triggers a feeling of happiness .
But: There are still fellow human beings. And the love of money. And the stupid thing with the discrepancy between Instagram filters, pinteresting boards and the dull reality. A few aspects must therefore be observed, few, but precise considerations - before you plunge into the life-changing adventure and also while joyfully riding on hormone waves, triggered by flea market sales and bulky waste pick-ups.

To make it easier for you to minimize, we describe in three points what can happen to you

Here we go.

1. You want everything at once.

Maybe you have Marie Kondo's book? (This is the Japanese consultant and bestselling author whose three books have been translated into 27 languages ​​and sold 7 million times worldwide. In English, her last name even became the verb kondo, which means tidying up a closet.

Maybe you came across the Minimalists or browsed through a few blog articles on the topic - and now you are highly motivated, have the feeling that you absolutely have to change something in your life and tackle everything right now! That's wonderful! We are happy for you!

It was certainly to be foreseen and you already suspected it logically: Now comes the big, universally unpopular BUT. In capital letters and preferably also in bold, italic and underlined. If that didn't cause an uncomfortable twitch of the eye in the text image. And this BUT only consists of a one-word objection, an admonition - no, rather a well-intentioned advice: calm down. Stay calm. Breathe in. Exhale. Namasté. Or something like that.

We know: When the motivation after possibly years of procrastination has seized you for the first time, you can't turn the whole house into a clothes-and-superfluous-things-battlefield fast enough ... and you long for minimalism!

Time and energy

The problem with the matter (which nobody talks about so often and happily): Mucking out costs. Less money (maybe a little too - it all depends on what you do with the discarded things in the end; however, it is best to get extra pocket money) - than rather: time and energy.

The latter in particular is an aspect that should not be underestimated: If you remember your last move, you may still have a vague idea of ​​how broken you were at the end of the whole company (and how you swore to yourself, never, never, never ! to move again).
It's similar with large-scale mucking-out campaigns: It's basically like moving house, only in your own home. And in a slightly more stressful version. Because most of what you have owned so far is moving into the hands of other people. And you have to make sure that it happens reliably.

In plain language this means:
• If you have stairs: stair marathon (and sore thighs)
• Dragging boxes
• Bend over, crawl around on the floor, jump up, kneel down again - repeat
• Run flat feet on the way to the local second-hand collection point (or Caritas or the Red Cross) to donate clothes
• Legs in the stomach stand at flea markets
• Organization of buyers on online platforms, processing of the purchase
• And don't forget: The constant tossing around in my head - what do I need, what not, what can I do instead ...?

Therefore: Be nice to yourself (and things) and give yourself time. That is so immensely important! Good things take time. It's really like that.

2. You do not respect other people in your household.

When the fever has seized you, you only have superfluous piles standing around everywhere, you see that nothing is really loved and in the most honest sense is nothing more than a dust collector, you would like to donate or sell everything immediately. The main thing is to get rid of all that stuff quickly.

The problem (if you are not currently living in a single apartment): Your roommates or optionally your partner may not go through the same development as you.
You can not only because your partner's collection of clothes gets on your nerves, you know exactly what he has not worn in half an eternity and definitely will not wear anymore - and the corresponding (from your perspective!) Superfluous Share quietly and secretly dispose of them in order to avoid nerve-wracking arguments about the meaning and purpose of these things.

As understandable as such emotional states are in the zeal of the life-turning-madness (because this is nothing less): Don't do that. You're welcome.

There is little more disrespectful than assaulting other people's property. How well that may be meant. The moment you decide for other people what is worth keeping for him or her, you intervene fundamentally and irreversibly in his / her life. And cross an invisible, deep red mark.

3. You have perfectionist ideas about being a minimalist.

Not good. Not good at all. Do you know these people who are so blatantly perfectionist that they actually stand in their own way all the time - and don't even notice it? I don't know how many of these copies there are in your circle of friends and acquaintances (maybe you are one of them yourself?), But I can assure you from the perspective of just such a person: Life is terribly exhausting when you do everything perfectly want.
And that brings us back to the beginning (that's how a really good text works!): It takes a lot of energy.

The exact observation of oneself as well as the tapping of the existing objects for suitability to be allowed to stay in the new, minimalist apartment, can have a satisfying character, convey a nice, controlled feeling.

Somehow that is what minimizing is about:
To regain control over ourselves and what we let into our four walls in times of unbelievably untamed abundance. It's an act of self-determination.
But if it expresses itself in the fact that you roam from room to room in the evening, scan the shelves with your eyes for something that can be sorted out and are thievingly happy when you have discovered another part for the donation box - then something is going wrong.
It's not about a defined maximum number of objects that you can use to scold yourself as a “minimalist”. It is also not about a life that is as spartan as possible, similar to mortification. It's about finding yourself - and your needs. And how is that supposed to work when you divide your actions into mistakes and good deeds?

Because the evaluation of mistakes and correctness already implies the reference to an external system - one that does not have its point of reference in you and accordingly will not be any help on the way to finding your (whatever kind of) new you.
When you think in terms of mistakes, you think about yourself from the perspective of others. What to expect - and whether you live up to these expectations.

There are no mistakes

Not in this context. Only in stations on your way. And on this the goal is not defined, neither for someone else nor for you. Do you know the famous Chinese proverb that is quoted so often and over and over and over again? About the way and the goal and so? Yes?
Then try to act on his behalf - and be good to you.

Don't get us wrong: We don't want to spoil the undertaking for you - on the contrary! (Even if that may not read particularly convincingly at the moment.)
It's great and great that you have decided to give yourself and your apartment or house a new you - but you mustn't forget that it can't work overnight. So the whole (in your eyes now) clutter did not get into the house - that also took its time.