How do I stop complaining about others

There is always something to complain about!

Do you agree with me? There are days when you can't stop complaining. There is one thing to the other. You stand up with your left leg and you could kick anything that gets in your way into the bin.

When it comes to criticism, we Germans are true world champions! Is the world really that bad to keep getting a fly in the ointment?

Let's take a closer look at when and why people complain continuously:

  • People complain because they don't like the nose of their counterpart: downright insignificant outward appearances can trigger endless complaints. "Man, Meier, that one up there is making a mess again. Can't go faster. ”Out of the blue, sometimes we get into a“ grumbling mood ”for no reason - and it just doesn't stop.
  • People complain because a louse has run down their liver: bad news or an unsolvable problem. They cannot cope with it, are dissatisfied with themselves and convey their frustration to the outside world. You literally need a lightning rod and you are right in the middle of it .... The bad thing about it: Most of the time, these complaints leave their sensitivities in the people around you, e. B. from their work colleagues who can least do it. Scapegoats are easy to find.
  • People complain because they have had bad experiences. They are so deep that basic trust in the environment has dried up. They are already stinking, although they have no reason to. This behavior is very insidious and so rooted in habit that any other way seems unthinkable.
  • People complain because they simply display a loose, uncouth, pointed mouth. This group of people cannot be helped at all.
  • People complain because they have every reason to. You are not satisfied with a received service because the requested service does not meet the requirements or expectations. In my opinion, this selective dissatisfaction can easily be dispelled and turned into the opposite.

Do the self-test: How often do you complain a day? Couldn't you complain more often? About your incompetent colleagues, the unfriendly service or the gloomy weather?

There are so many everyday situations that don't go smoothly and that one could drag on endlessly. But it doesn't stop at mere grumbling. Usually a sharp-biting roar is added, so that the grumbling quickly turns into an attack. The "wolf language" takes over hand and does not create a good atmosphere for discussion.

What can we do ourselves to curb the grumbling?

  • Introduce a "moaning hour". If you notice that your basic mood is slipping into grumbling, take it halfway: grumble as much as you can. Let off steam until you calm down. But in any case, be sure to limit the grumbling time. Otherwise you will never stop, and that is also not in the spirit of this idea.
  • Try not to use the word “not”. Not so easy. But usually the grumbling starts with: “Can't he open his mouth? Can't the weather be better? ”Observe your language habits and try to express your concern differently.
  • See the good in the bad. There is always something derogatory about complaining.

And everything that we encounter also has another side. A beautiful. A positive one. An instructive one. Those who approach things and people in an appreciative manner find it easier in life. Have fun!

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Born in 1967 from the Palatinate, she is a passionate entrepreneur, trainer and author. She runs her own construction company www.eberlebau-landau.de with heart and mind. Her motto: "With the heart you build stable value". Due to her many years of construction experience, she is considered a building fox and passes on what she lives with body and soul in the family-run construction company to other companies in the form of training courses www.klug-managen.de.