Is it too bad to be too nice?

Being nice is good for your own health, but less so for your career

Being nice is good for your health, but less so for your career

All in a bad mood right now. We should be nicer anyway. It strengthens health and makes us more resistant to crises.

If two things that do not go together fall into one day, then it is worth writing about them with a delay. On Friday, November 13th, the calendrical disaster struck “World Kindness Day”, not to be confused with “Day of gratuitous kindness”, which would not be until February 17th. Last Friday you shouldn't have been unreasonable, you should just have been nice, so reasonably nice, in order to bravely stand up to the disaster. Which is not so easy in these times, when a slipped mask can lead to spitefulness and every fellow human being is not just a source of nerves, but also a source of viruses.

In general, one recently had the impression that the concept of being nice had gone out of fashion, and that its image had at least been scratched. Completely wrong, not only Mr. and Mrs. Knigge see it that way, but also science.

Friendliness strengthens the immune system

Being nice is medically evident: friendliness and altruistic behavior triggers processes in one's own body which, in addition to the hormonal and cardiovascular systems, also strengthen the immune system and thus protect against infectious diseases. The doctor and scientist describes these processes in his new book "The Law of Compensation - Why We Are Better Good People". Huber even auctioned himself off to the statement that unfriendliness increases the risk of contracting Covid-19. Well, this thesis urgently needs to be scientifically proven.

It has already been proven, however, that unfriendly, selfish behavior does not only take revenge in the next life. A friendly, humorous lifestyle extends life by up to 20 percent, according to a study by the Norwegian University of Science and Technology.

"A friendly sense of humor is a mental shock absorber that helps us cope better with frustrations, anger and conflicts in everyday life",

the head of the study Sven Svebak is quoted as saying. Nice and funny people also have fewer addiction problems, are less lonely and are less likely to be overweight. Whether they are nicer because of it or vice versa is a difficult question to answer. Still, it can't hurt to be nice. Not just two days a year.

If you are nice, you will not be trusted

There is one catch, though. Nice people are considered harmless. Those who are nice will be liked by their counterparts, but in reality they don't have much confidence in them. A nice guy is no competition, and a nice girl is definitely not. A research team led by Nir Halevy from Stanford University has organized an experiment. The participants received chips worth a total of 20 dollars, which they could keep or put into a common pot.

Dominant egoists are more likely to become bosses

The players had the option of being able to damage a second group by sharing their assets with their own group. A subsequent survey showed that selfish behavior and deliberate damage to the parallel group led to the player in question being perceived as unpleasant, but at least dominant.

This was also confirmed by a subsequent election in which the study participants had to choose a boss who was to lead them in a fictitious competition with the other group: the dominant egoists had the most success. "The nice guys or women don't make it to the top if their group needs a dominant leader to guide them in times of conflict," the researchers concluded.

Be nice and you will live longer than your boss

And what do we conclude from this? Being nice is good for your health. You also need nice people so that this society doesn't go completely to the dogs.

But apparently it also needs a few unpleasant egoists, eternal grouches, from whom the nice ones stand out and who they can work on. As a thank you, there are a few years of life and more friends.