Do you want anything from me at all?

The 7 most annoying male questions

Questions are not inherently bad. On the contrary: Of course you want men who would rather ask questions than rash judgments or make strange announcements.

But some questions really make for an eye roll factor of 1000. And not only in the getting to know phase, but also after years in the relationship. These men's questions are the most annoying. Arm yourself!

"Where are your wings?"

In a moment, he'll tell you that he thought you were an angel who fell from heaven, and that's an incredibly creative pick-up line. Not. There are many such helpless excavator questions, all of which reveal more than they ask, namely, they say: "I'm not really interested in you, at most in your body, and I'm just looking for a particularly clever way to get into conversation with you to prove to you what a funny guy I am. "

If he were really enthusiastic about you as a person, he would not come up with a prepared, made-up nonsense question that he can ask anyone, but with an honestly interested one.

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What do you answer: Nothing. Just go away. That doesn't deserve an answer. Or no, wait, in that case you could say, "Oh, my wings! You're right, I left them in the cloakroom. I'll get them and then I'll FLY AWAY FAST!"

Or do you think he's really cute? Then say: "Please no pick-up lines. Ask me something serious. Or tell me something interesting about yourself." That clears up the fronts and enables a second attempt.

This is how you react to the most annoying man's sayings

"Honey, can you put that in your handbag?"

It's so typical. Guys are constantly making fun of your handbag: "It's unbelievable what you carry around with you!" Or: "Is there a black hole in the ground, hey!"

But as soon as he has something with him on a trip together that doesn't fit in his bulging trouser pockets, he sniffs it and holds it out to you with a crooked grin. Preferably with an "It's not difficult at all, and you have your bag with you anyway."

This is what he means by "take care of yourself"

What do you answer: "Sure, no problem. If you carry the bag then too." Of course, you should ideally have the model with the flowers or the glitter with you.

"Something always goes wrong with me, do you do the laundry?"

Using the alleged own inability as an excuse - strangely enough, men do that mostly in the household. It would never occur to a man to say to his colleagues: "I can't do it with Excel, who can do it for me?" Or in sports: "I always miss, does someone else go into the storm?" Flirting with one's own inability is only dug out when it comes to unpleasant tasks. Not nice!

What do you answer: "No. You can do it. Only through practice do professionals grow." (But get your expensive woolen sweaters to safety first!)

"Are you very, very sure about that?"

Of course, he doesn't ask that once, but over and over again. First he inserts a "whole", then the second. Okay, at least: he's past the stage of clumsily patronizing you. Maybe he's worried. Maybe he just wants to make sure that in the end it was your decision, ALL YOURSELF. And if it goes wrong, he wants to be able to say CLEARLY that he was against it from the start. In addition, of course, the intention is to make you feel a little more insecure.

But ultimately, along with all of that, there is a refusal to accept that you are making decisions for yourself. Even those that don't suit him or that he thinks you will regret later. But isn't that somewhere the sense of independent decisions, that they are also made independently of him?

What do you reply to: "The question should be more like: Why are you trying to make me feel insecure. Do you think I made it easy for myself? Trust me or leave me alone!"

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"Why a women's quota, you didn't need it either, did you?"

Even if you actually don't need it: Behind this question is a thought that actually prevents our progress as a society. When it comes to quota, it's so easy to refer to the women who made it "even without". But that ignores the many women who, due to patriarchal structures in our society, are not even able to show what they can do. A quota is not a special discount, but in many cases it is often a kind of self-defense against completely different, much older mechanisms.

What do you answer: "At the moment there is a structural quota for men, and it is very high. I ask whether you need it or not?"

"You're taking the pill, aren't you?"

There is such a supernova of unpleasant truths in this question that it should take your breath away:

Statement 1: "I don't feel like condoms." (Or, "I don't know how to use them.")
Statement 2: "I am not interested in sexually transmitted diseases."
Statement 3: "Contraception is a woman's business, they get this pregnant thing after all, not me."
Statement 4: "First and foremost, hormonal contraception is fully practical, the health consequences for women are completely irrelevant to me."

You don't really want to go to bed with someone like that, do you?

What do you answer: "What for? I use a different method of prevention. Among other things with an idiot alarm.

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"Wow! YOU can program?"

Optionally, it could also be about electrical engineering, home improvement or the tax return. The stupid thing about the question is the surprised tone. He may even mean it appreciatively. But behind this is usually the unspoken statement: "And that as a woman!" Something from the 50s.

What do you answer: "Tjaja. I can do a lot. Just no longer spend time with you."

"You look so great, what do you need make-up for?"

Of course he wants to compliment you in a roundabout way. That is meant nicely. But ultimately the question is also a sign of how little he deals with how you feel and what image of you you want to carry in public (which is no one else's business but you). Maybe he needs a little tutoring.

What do you answer: "Thank you, but I don't want to look like you would in bed with you in the morning."

Not all stupid men’s questions are mean or clumsy turn-on. But if you want to eradicate them, you have to respond with clear messages. In the end, it helps everyone, because then there is more time for the important questions in life.

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