Can you give me your honest opinion

Expressing your opinion: 7 reasons to express your opinion

Who his Expresses an opinion, lives not without danger. Extreme example from North Korea: Because Defense Minister Hyon Yong Chol is said to have contradicted dictator Kim Jong Un (and fell asleep at an event), he was promptly executed, according to the South Korean secret service. Tragic. Also because so many corporate cultures resemble that of a dictatorship. Fortunately, there is no mortal danger for opinionated employees, but the consequences of openness can bring an unpleasant end to a career. Nevertheless, this will not be a plea for clowning and cadaver obedience, on the contrary: There are several good reasons to stand up for your opinion and conviction at least now and then ...

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Why we keep our opinion to ourselves

Have you ever caught yourself enjoying your Opinion not expressedbut rather keep it to yourself? This is not just a reason to be ashamed, you have probably thought carefully about why you would prefer to remain silent. But what makes us keep our attitudes to ourselves? After all, we live in a country full of freedom of expression, where anyone can - within certain limits and without being offensive - stand by their views.

Still, that is exactly what doesn't happen on a regular basis. The possibility is given, but expressing one's opinion is difficult for many and there are several reasons for this. One of the biggest: Hardly anyone likes to argue. We are looking for harmony, cohesion and a sense of togetherness. In the end, the person is and remains one social being and so we want to belong together and be accepted within a group. But if you openly express your opinion, you are putting that at risk.

What if no one else agrees and you are all alone with your opinion? Or worse: everyone else ally against you and one comes into being great disagreement, of which you alone are one side. The very thought of it makes us pause and hesitate whether it is really a good time to raise your own opinion.

Your opinion also makes you vulnerable. You reveal your attitude and views on a (perhaps quite controversial) topic and thus also show a piece of your personality. Criticism in this region hits particularly hard and is usually taken personally. Nobody wants to hear that they are telling bullshit or that their opinion is completely nonsensical.

Should I give my opinion on the job?

In a private setting, it can be very difficult to express your own opinion openly. But in the job? Many employees would like to become invisible here and merge with the office wall when it comes to making their own suggestions or expressing an opinion on the current state of affairs. The result of this attitude can be observed in many companies: The boss stands for one point of view and everyone else happily join in. A bunch of yes-men who speak after the decision-makers.

The employees seem to agree on one opinion: I don't want to be the one contradicts the boss and explains that his suggestions are unrealistic and have little chance of success. The very idea seems like you are digging your own professional grave with it.

That sounds understandable, but unfortunately it is perfect incorrect adjustment. Of course there are exceptions, but many managers don't just want confirmation, they want honest opinions. After all, that's what you get paid for. Only when different views come together, discussed and argued can the best possible result come around in the end.

Every beginning is difficult, and so you may have to overcome yourself to stand up against the boss's views and express your opinion. But it is worth it and you might even manage to score points with your boss, gain respect and convince with competence and initiative.

7 good reasons to express your opinion

There was once a program on Prosieben with the slogan "Opinion must be worthwhile again". That sounds particularly strong. It is suggested, however, that expressing an opinion has not yet been worthwhile. The opposite is true.

Indeed, its Not to say opinionto do more harm than utter this. As the saying goes: It always takes a brave man to speak the truth.

Granted that Cassandra, the bearer of bad news, is not too popular, which is why you shouldn't reduce your role to it. But it is also true: opinions and convictions are the humus on which ideas, plans and decisions can flourish in the first place. After all, a really good decision can only be made when all opinions and arguments have been heard.

Therefore, especially for everyone who now and then Courage and the chutzpah absence…

  1. You seem more confident

    Confidence isn't a bad thing - just as little in the job interview as it is later in the job. Assertiveness is, after all, a virtue that is particularly valued in managers (in particular) and in negotiations. Of course, that doesn't mean that you can't listen or that you can't compromise. But the moment you stand up for your opinion, defend it argumentatively, grow in the eyes of others. You don't have to be right about it or be right, but at least you stand by your thoughts. That deserves at least respect - and the next time it will also be heard more.

  2. You have nothing to regret

    Hand on heart, what more do we regret - things we did or things we didn't do? In the job it is usually the latter: Inaction and cowardice Nobody likes to see in the mirror. Even if you might receive opposition; even if you have to admit that you were wrong; even if you end up alone with your opinion - you have dealt with it publicly, and that is more than most will ever dare. Class!

  3. They encourage discussion

    Not everyone likes debates or discussions - also because he or she has never learned to wrestle or argue about the matter without taking it personally. But if you speak up, you should be able to do so. It's also worth it: every assessment and opinion enriches a debate - either way. And in the end it always leads to intellectual alternatives, to new ideas that would never have been born without the controversy and thus to better results. It's good that you are doing your part.

  4. You could change something

    A good telemarketer once told me: If I don't call, I already know the answer 100 percent; but if I call, the chances of a deal are with Fifty-Fifty. It is the same with your own opinion: you never know beforehand whether you can change something after all. A There is never a guarantee of success. But those who remain silent know that 100 percent of their opinion will not be taken into account; But if you open your mouth, the chances are there Fifty-Fifty.

  5. If you're wrong, you know why

    Anyone who expresses their opinion or criticizes something does not necessarily have to be right. Vehemence has never replaced substance. Even so, you should take the risk of making a mistake. This is the only way to learn - and eventually change your mind. Weak characters only see this as defeat and shame. In fact, it's a chance to add two more dimensions to feelings and instincts: validation and relevance.

  6. You could take the lead in opinion

    Sometimes you are wrong with your opinion, but sometimes you also express what many have long thought. OK then! It has to be one - and with that you mutate into a Workforce heroes. Perhaps you have thought up to now that you were alone with your opinion. Now there is approval and applause from everywhere. You gave a voice not only to your opinion, but to an entire group. A great achievement and a great feeling - that those who never speak your mind never will either.

  7. The risks are manageable

    Most of them imagine what bad things can happen to them when they open their mouths. A real worst-case scenario. The reverse rarely happens - unfortunately. If you look at it realistically, the odds outweigh the odds, and the probability of a real disaster is in the single-digit percentage range. Societies and corporate cultures live from different opinions and so do constructive and appreciative debates. Even dictators sometimes need to exchange views. The trick is, of course, to make your own opinion look like that of the dictator. But this is another story…

Expressing one's opinion is not only liberating, it can also be tremendous enriching be - for yourself and the whole team. However, please do not misunderstand the above plea: Just because you can and have an opinion doesn't mean you have to give it the best every time. Sometimes is too remain silent the better alternative.

Opinion is like medicine: the dose makes the poison. And too much Opinion making at some point just yields mustard. It gives some dishes the right seasoning, but when added to everything, it becomes inedible.

Only on Courage to give an opinion should never be lacking.

That is why you should always form your own opinion

Before you can express an opinion, you must first form one. This can be done in basically two different ways. One possibility is to copy the opinion of another person or group and use it as your own opinion. An example: You speak to your office bartender who tells you that a third colleague is unbearable. A real pain in the ass that creates stress and poisons the working atmosphere. Now you can adopt that opinion and base your opinion on this information. You try to avoid said colleague, react dismissively and negatively or even spread the opinion in other conversations that the employee is a problem.

It is better if you form your own opinion. Through my own first-hand experience, through interaction with this colleague. Perhaps you are working together on a project, you talk to each other over lunch or during the coffee break, or you experience for yourself how your colleague interacts with other employees.

Regardless of the specific situation, this second way is always preferable. Only if you get an idea for yourself will it actually be your opinion in the end. A reflected and thoughtful view. On the other hand, those who only take on opinions from outside have no opinions of their own at all and become additional prone to manipulation.

Perhaps a colleague knows that you pass unfiltered opinions as your own and pass them on. So he can use you as a mouthpiece and multiplier if he himself has a problem with another employee. Without noticing it or questioning it, allow yourself to be used as an opinion-making tool.

You can and should therefore only really have a say if you can actually YOUR opinion that is well-founded and based on personal impressions, information and experience.

Tips: how to disagree

Expressing your own opinion and then defending it is all the more difficult if your opinion deviates from the prevailing view. Those who agree on the whole and only disagree on details quickly dare to say something. The hurdle is particularly great if your opinion is completely contrary to the opinion of the person you are talking to. The contradiction and the difference between the two parties is greatest here.

In this initial situation, the expression of opinion and the following discussions have a tendency to extremism: Either the discussion round ends with the best possible result. Or the fronts harden, the working atmosphere suffers and a dispute breaks out over the different opinions and alleged ones Truth Monopolies.

For this reason, contradicting opinions are often kept to themselves. And that's exactly what it is opposing opinionswho bring the greatest potential. Correctly implemented, controversial opinions are a source of creative ideas, new approaches and profitable exchanges. In order for this to work, we'll show you how to correctly represent another opinion:

  1. Do not feel directly attacked

    If someone criticizes our attitude or opinion, we often perceive this as a personal attack. Allegations quickly arise. He never liked me or He just wants to wipe me off so he can get the promotion. In reality, however, these are the absolute exceptions. Try to take the discussion sporty and leave out the personal aspect.

    The same applies, of course, to yourself: To represent a different opinion does not mean that you should defame your interlocutors in order to be right. If you have to resort to such tricks, there is a lot to suggest that your view of things is not the better.

  2. Stay confident

    To represent a different opinion requires a lot of courage, especially when a discussion involves several people who represent a different perspective. You quickly feel pushed into a corner and prefer to give in because you think you won't be able to assert yourself on your own anyway. By backing out like this, however, you may be wasting an opportunity.

    Don't let yourself be intimidated; even in headwinds, stay self-confident enough to stand by your point of view. This is the only way you can put forward your arguments and maybe get the others on your side.

  3. State your arguments factually

    In heated discussions with several opinions, points of view and arguments, it is easy to lose track. You keep coming back to the same place, even though you've already talked about it twice. This can be frustrating, but you should keep your arguments factual.

    Of course, you can let emotions flow in to show how convinced you are of your opinion and that you are fighting for the cause, but you also need suitable arguments to convince others of your opinion.

  4. Listen to

    It is not uncommon for different opinions and hardened fronts to arise in discussions because one side does not know what the other actually wants to say or achieve. You are too fixated on your own arguments that you don't really hear which points the other person is addressing. Break this circle and listen actively to what your interlocutor has to say.

    In this case, listening means more than just being calm and waiting until it's your turn again. For example, ask questions if you do not understand a point exactly and show interest. Only in this way can a real discussion arise. Instead of just throwing opposing arguments back and forth, respond to what has been said, for example in the form of: I understand your point of view, but I see a problem with ...

  5. Also question your point of view

    You have every right to have a different opinion and in many cases it is even important to weigh up different points of view in order to arrive at a good result. However, you shouldn't insist on being right at all costs. It is also part and parcel of particular strength when you recognize the good approaches of the interlocutor and perhaps even include them in your opinion.

    In this way a compromise can be reached which can mean the best solution for everyone involved. However, this can only be achieved if both sides are willing to loosen their stuck opinions a little and come to an agreement.

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January 16, 2021Author: Jochen Mai

Jochen Mai is the founder and editor-in-chief of the career bible. The author of several books lectures at the TH Köln and is a sought-after keynote speaker, coach and consultant.

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